Bi-Sexual ‘Bomb’ on a First Date
Dear Harmony, I met a beautiful woman on match.com and asked her out for lunch. We seemed to get along great, so we planned a first date. During dinner, my date revealed that her last relationship was a 9 year affair with another woman. Since she was only looking for men on match, I assumed she was straight. What should I do? Mr. Old Fashioned
Dear Mr. Old Fashioned, It’s time for you to step out of your comfort zone and embrace the 21st century! You obviously have some chemistry between you so, there is no reason to ‘do’ anything but simply see where the relationship goes. Although bi-sexuals are open to relationships with both sexes, they are just as loyal to their partner and happy in a monogamous relationship as any other person. Ask about her thoughts on monogamy and see if they fit with yours. That will be your answer. Harmony 
I wanna hold his hand
Dear Harmony, I’ve been dating a guy I met on match.com for a few weeks and everything seems fine, but I’m noticing that he is not much into PDA at all. When I try and hold his hand he tells me ‘not right now’. He acts like he’s embarrassed about it. I really want to be close to my partner, which would include at least a little PDA. What should I do? Miss Touchy Feely
Dear Touchy Feely, There could be several reasons that your date will not hold hands. He is most likely embarrassed to show emotions, he has an oversensitive aversion toward germs, or he is embarrassed to be with you. Either way, his maturity level is in question and it’s time to move on. Touching is probably one of your main love languages and if you continue a relationship where you don’t get it, you’ll never be happy or content. He’s not ready to give you that type of love, and we don’t know if he ever will be. Find a guy who is. Harmony
Why did she stop writing?
Dear Harmony, I hooked up with a beautiful girl on okcupid and we’ve been exchanging long messages with intense conversations and now she has not replied to me in several days. It’s like I don’t exist anymore. Did I say something wrong? What should I do? Mr. Impatient.
Dear Mister Impatient, Your best bet is to just leave it alone. Most of the time when someone doesn’t respond they simply don’t have the time or they aren’t interested. Since you had several long exchanges, she showed some sort of interest, but she may need more time. This is another reason I suggest that you meet as soon as possible. Once you meet everything changes and if you are both really interested, you’ll be in close contact. But in this case, go ahead and give her a few more days to respond. After which, send a short note about meeting and she may respond. After that, it’s time to move on. Harmony
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Nicole has been a dating specialist since high school when she primed the Homecoming King & Queen who are now married with 3 kids. Her no-nonsense approach to dating has been highly sought from many publications and news outlets.
